Showing posts with label adversity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label adversity. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

Capitalize on Adversity

When adversity strikes it can have debilitating effects on a person’s life. It is a force to be reckoned with. It brings negative change that is out of our control. What most people don't realize is that they can control adversity by the way they react to it. You can use it to create positive growth and beauty or you can get stuck in it and wallow in depression and bitterness.

A few years ago I met a woman in the locker room at my exercise club. She was striking in her presence and beauty. I was drawn to her positive energy. After talking with her for a while, I learned that she had been struggling with cancer for many years and was undergoing another surgery in a few weeks. She told me that the doctors had given her months to live a few years ago and she felt blessed to have the gift of life. Although she was initially devastated about her prognosis, she forged forward to help other women who were also fighting for their life. She traveled all over the county as a motivational speaker on how to live with cancer.

That day I had some adversity that I was dealing with, but it was nothing in comparison to her struggle. I never saw her again but never forgot her. She is a classic example of a person who capitalized on adversity.

Over the years I have learned valuable tools that people use to fight adversity. A man told me that adversity is like going to battle. While he is in it, he carries inspirational quotes in his pocket to remind him that others have fought and won. I learned about how red lipstick helped a woman to portray positivity in her darkest moments. Many people told me that prayer gave them strength to overcome.

If you are struggling with adversity try to incorporate these strategies.

1. Take a step back and ask yourself what positivity you can cultivate
2. Pray and or meditate
3. Practice mindfulness
4. Journal
5. Use outcome and process visualization
6. Help others
7. Dress for success
8. Add positive activities into your life
9. Connect with positive people
10. Write gratitude lists

Lastly, the luckiest people in the world said that they found the silver lining in unfortunate events. Perhaps we all have luck if we know how to use it.

To learn more about capitalizing on adversity and Gemma Nastasi, click here.

Call us at 732-263-7999 or visit our website at www.HackensackMeridianHealth.org/IntegrativeMedicine to find out more.


Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Affirmations to Create a Happier, Healthier You


By Sharon Yeskel, BA
Integrative Health Associate

Affirmations are phrases you repeat to yourself to help bring about positive changes in your life. They can also help you stop negative self-talk by choosing to state the opposite of what you believe is true. To create an affirmation out of a negative belief, change the thought:
  • I’m not lovable becomes I deserve to love and be loved 
  • I’ll never find an apartment I like becomes I trust that I will find the perfect place to live 
  • I’m always sick and tired becomes I am healthy and filled with energy to do the things I love
Affirmations should create positive images in your mind. Using words like scared, pain, or anxious make you think of those conditions. Make sure to use words like comfortable, safe, supported, and peaceful when writing your phrases:
  • I have no pain becomes I feel comfortable. 
  • I am not scared becomes I feel safe and supported. 
  • I’m not anxious becomes I choose peace in this moment.
Be sure you never start your affirmations with “I hope.” When you say “I hope this happens,” there is an underlying vibration of doubt. Say to yourself, “I hope I get the job and my boss respects me.” Now say, “I have a job that I love. My boss respects me and values my work.” Which phrase makes you feel better? Which phrase makes you feel that having that job is possible? Always chose statements that make you light up inside.

Have you ever thought about what would bring you joy and give you a reason to get up every morning? If you don’t know the answer, try using affirmations to lead you to your life’s purpose. Try these statements and see what shows up for you:

·         I am aligned with my life’s purpose.
·         My life’s purpose is being revealed to me now. I open myself to all possibilities.

When you first start saying affirmations, they may not be true or you may not believe they are true. As you continue to say them once or several times a day, they can change the way you think about yourself and the world. Make a commitment to repeat your affirmations every day for a minimum of 21 days. Keep a list of your affirmations on your night table and read them before you go to sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning.

Overtime, you may find those statements that were once just wishful thinking, are true. Drop some and add others as the statements become a reality. Affirmations can be a powerful tool to help you let go of limiting beliefs and help you create the happier, healthier life you desire.


Wednesday, June 6, 2018

How Resilient Are You?


By Sharon Yeskel, BA
Integrative Health Associate

The late Dr. Wayne Dyer left a legacy of spiritual and practical wisdom through his many books and lectures. He always shared great stories. In his book “Inspiration, Your Ultimate Calling” he shares one about resiliency. Dr. Dyer notes that it’s not what happens to us, but how we respond that will ultimately define who we are and what kind of lives we will create. He calls this story “Carrots, Eggs and Coffee” and it goes like this….

A young woman is complaining to her mother how hard her life is. She says she feels like giving up. The mother takes her to the kitchen. She fills three pots with water and puts them on the stove to boil. In the first one she puts carrots, in the second she puts an egg, and in the third she puts coffee grounds. After 20 minutes, the carrots are soft, the egg is hard-boiled, and the coffee is ready to drink.

So what does that have to do with overcoming difficulties? The mother explains that each of the objects faced the same adversity: the boiling water. The carrots went in strong, hard and unrelenting. After boiling, they became soft and weak. The egg started out fragile, but after boiling, it became hard. The coffee grounds mixed with the water and actually changed the water itself.

We all get thrown for a loop sometimes. We can’t control what happens to us. What we can do is choose how we will respond. Adversity can weaken us and harden our hearts or it can propel us forward. New possibilities await if we open our hearts to change. It is a key to becoming resilient.

Resilience is one of the Five Pillars of Health & Well-Being (Sleep, Activity, Purpose, Resilience and Nutrition). Learn more about Hackensack Meridian Integrative Health & Medicine’s Five Pillar approach to optimize your health by calling 732-263-7999, visiting our website at HackensackMeridianHealth.org/IntegrativeMedicine or following us on social media on Facebook: Hackensack Meridian Integrative Health & Medicine or Twitter: @HMIntegrativeHM.